Rejected

HOW TO TURN REJECTION INTO SOMETHING POSITIVE

Rejection of any kind, no matter the nature relationships, love, family friends, career, children, and now society does not feel well. It can trigger past emotions and create distance in marriages, friendships, and the workplace. It can also leave you feeling lonely and isolated. We all have been rejected at some point. For me, my first rejection was from a boy at school that I just loved and admired. He was cute, popular, and I was none of them. When I finally had the courage to talk to him to ask him if he would like to come to my Halloween party, he laughed and threw a raw egg at my leg. See, back in the day in New York, we would throw eggs at each other during Halloween. Not something that would happen today. When I got hit (hard) by the egg, it hit me on the only bare skin that I was showing. In catholic school, we had to wear long shirts and tall tube socks. So, the only open skin area was above and right below my knee. Yes, it hurt badly, but not as bad as being laughed at and being told, “NO, I will not come to your party.” That happened over 43 years ago, and I can remember it like It was yesterday. These are called crystallizing moments. Moments that stick to use and we bring into our other relationships.

I have learned through the years of being rejected repeatedly in school and relationships. Was to always get back up, brush it off, start again, and move forward. That was the motto, brush it off and keep moving. You can only do that so many times until the hurt is so bad you just give up. It was not until today that I heard a great devotional by Paster Jeremey Flowers. He stated that rejection is never a reflection of your value. It is an opportunity that God or Universe (however you see the world, for me, it is God) to redirect you because something has died in the relationship or conversations that only he can hear about you have been said, that gives you the opportunity to be resurrected. To state again, rejection is never a reflection of your value, it’s a redirection from something that has died and is now being resurrected somewhere else.